Some Very Valid Points
Hello, back again!
I keep receiving an email, which, although sent by various different people, remains the same. It's one of those horrific chain-email things, which strike terror into the hearts of the superstitious and annoyance into everyone else. It does, however,contain some very valid points, which I'd like to illustrate right here.
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
When you say, "I love you," mean it.
When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Believe in love at first sight.
Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Don't judge people by their relatives.
Talk slowly but think quickly.
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Now, I've picked out the ones I liked best/thought had the greatest relevance, and for most of the above, they're certainly relevant for the past few months of my life.
"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship." How many times would that have come true if Jay and I hadn't talked things out? We've fought so much, and now we're (I think) a lot stronger in our relations with each other. Some days he annoys the hell out of me, some days I annoy the hell out of him, and yet no matter how mad we get with each other - no matter how many times we log off msn/skype in rages - we always come back to each other. We always talk it through. And if we get mad again, we keep trying. We keep coming back.
"When you say 'I love you', mean it." I always stick to that doctrine - don't need an email to tell me about that one! - and it's wonderful to know that the people around me know I won't say "I love you" unless I really, truly do mean it. So if you know me and I tell you "I love you", be proud - because you're talking to a lady who means it, and you have a special place in her life.
"Never laugh at anyone's dream..." Hell, don't I know about dreams...! (Read my previous blog, "Acting and Motherhood")
"Talk slowly but think quickly." I find myself increasingly having to think ahead to what possible turns a conversation can take. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to find yourself bogged down in the complete load of crap you spewed out because you weren't watching what you were saying. As an actress, that's not a good thing. We call it improvising - everybody else calls it bulls**tting.
"Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk." I wholeheartedly agree with this one. Unfortunately, recent experience has left me temporarily (I hope) unable to take "great risks". I do, however, have a capacity for "great love" - once I love, I love wholeheartedly.
I would ask everybody to remember this, too. A few days before Christmas, one of my older brother's friends was murdered. He was father to 2 children, a boy and a girl, and a single dad at that. So if you've had a fight with someone, make it up. If you haven't told someone you love them and you do, do it as soon as possible. Simon's girlfriend let go of his hand for 2 seconds...2 seconds later he was dead.
So take all of the above advice on board...whether or not you use it is up to you. But it only takes 2 seconds to tell someone how you feel, 2 seconds for it all to be snatched away, and a lifetime to wonder, "What if?"
xXx
I keep receiving an email, which, although sent by various different people, remains the same. It's one of those horrific chain-email things, which strike terror into the hearts of the superstitious and annoyance into everyone else. It does, however,contain some very valid points, which I'd like to illustrate right here.
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
When you say, "I love you," mean it.
When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Believe in love at first sight.
Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Don't judge people by their relatives.
Talk slowly but think quickly.
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Now, I've picked out the ones I liked best/thought had the greatest relevance, and for most of the above, they're certainly relevant for the past few months of my life.
"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship." How many times would that have come true if Jay and I hadn't talked things out? We've fought so much, and now we're (I think) a lot stronger in our relations with each other. Some days he annoys the hell out of me, some days I annoy the hell out of him, and yet no matter how mad we get with each other - no matter how many times we log off msn/skype in rages - we always come back to each other. We always talk it through. And if we get mad again, we keep trying. We keep coming back.
"When you say 'I love you', mean it." I always stick to that doctrine - don't need an email to tell me about that one! - and it's wonderful to know that the people around me know I won't say "I love you" unless I really, truly do mean it. So if you know me and I tell you "I love you", be proud - because you're talking to a lady who means it, and you have a special place in her life.
"Never laugh at anyone's dream..." Hell, don't I know about dreams...! (Read my previous blog, "Acting and Motherhood")
"Talk slowly but think quickly." I find myself increasingly having to think ahead to what possible turns a conversation can take. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to find yourself bogged down in the complete load of crap you spewed out because you weren't watching what you were saying. As an actress, that's not a good thing. We call it improvising - everybody else calls it bulls**tting.
"Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk." I wholeheartedly agree with this one. Unfortunately, recent experience has left me temporarily (I hope) unable to take "great risks". I do, however, have a capacity for "great love" - once I love, I love wholeheartedly.
I would ask everybody to remember this, too. A few days before Christmas, one of my older brother's friends was murdered. He was father to 2 children, a boy and a girl, and a single dad at that. So if you've had a fight with someone, make it up. If you haven't told someone you love them and you do, do it as soon as possible. Simon's girlfriend let go of his hand for 2 seconds...2 seconds later he was dead.
So take all of the above advice on board...whether or not you use it is up to you. But it only takes 2 seconds to tell someone how you feel, 2 seconds for it all to be snatched away, and a lifetime to wonder, "What if?"
xXx
posted by SaMxXx at Monday, January 02, 2006
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